It can be tough to be the middle child. They’re not the first to reach developmental milestones and gain special privileges like their elder siblings, and they’re not as fussed over as their younger siblings. “Middle child syndrome” is a common phrase used to describe how middle children may feel left out or frequently compared to their siblings.
Based on research and advice from parenting experts across the country, these are the best ways to support your middle child.
Do:
- Give all kids equal attention, both individually and as a family.
- Take note of “firsts” for all children.
- Encourage differences between siblings.
- Communicate openly with your kids and encourage them to do the same with you.
- Let your middle child make decisions.
- Make sure your middle child has friends and relationships outside of their immediate family.
Don’t:
- Compare your children’s successes or failures to one another.
- Make your middle child resolve fights between siblings.
- Only give your middle child hand-me-downs from their older siblings.
- Force a middle child to pursue the same hobbies as their older siblings.
Local Resources
To further support a middle child, family therapy providers such as Maryland Integrative Counseling Associates, Echo Harbor Mental Health and Inner-Evolution Counseling focus on improving relationships within the family by addressing conflict resolution, communication and emotional needs.
