During the summer, teens spend a lot more time with their friends than during the school year. It’s possible that your teen may enter into their first romantic relationship during this time. Here’s the best advice from child development experts, including the the Council for Relationships (which has several locations around the Delaware Valley), for helping and supporting your child during their first relationship.
Q. What is the right age for your teen to start dating?
- No recommended age
- Many start as early as 12 ½ years (girls) and 13 ½ years (boys) on average (American Academy of Pediatrics).
- Group dating or mixed gender friend groups are more likely for young teens.
Q. When is your teen ready to date solo?
- Some pediatricians suggest 16 — an appropriate age to go out solo or with a friend.
- Parents should establish rules and boundaries before this age.
Q. What should parents teach their teens to prepare them for relationships?
- The importance of consent and respecting a partner’s boundaries
- Don’t forget to make time for friends; the romance should not isolate you.
Q. What if you don’t like your teen’s partner?
- Determine if your concerns warrant speaking up (such as a partner hurting your teen or putting them in dangerous situations) or you could risk damaging your relationship with your teen over your own discomfort.
- Ask open-ended questions to encourage teens to speak freely about their feelings.
Q. How can parents support their teens during breakups?
- Don’t downplay the experience for your teen.
- Be there for support but be patient and let them open up at their own pace.
